5 Gentle Ways Bereaved Mothers Can Cope with Grief

Child loss is not a process with a clear end, but a journey that requires tools and support to navigate. While there’s no way to erase the pain, there are ways to help you carry it more gently and find moments of calm and peace. Here are five grief strategies to support you as you navigate life after loss.

1. Ground Yourself in the Present

When grief feels overwhelming, it’s easy to feel consumed by emotions. Grounding techniques can help you reconnect with the present moment and provide a sense of stability when everything feels out of control.

How to Try It: Use the 5-4-3-2-1 method to anchor yourself. Identify 5 things you can see, 4 you can touch, 3 you can hear, 2 you can smell, and 1 you can taste. Keep a small object, like a smooth stone or a meaningful piece of jewelry, to hold during moments of anxiety.

Why It Matters: Grief often pulls us into the past or future, but grounding allows you to take a small, manageable step toward feeling present. It’s not about avoiding your feelings but giving yourself moments of calm within the storm.

2. Write Your Feelings Down

Journaling can be a lifeline when emotions feel too big to contain. Putting your thoughts and feelings on paper helps release the inner turmoil and can also create a sense of connection with your child.

How to Try It: Start with small prompts, such as writing a letter to your child or jotting down one memory that brings you comfort. There’s no right or wrong way to journal—let the words flow naturally.

Why It Matters: Writing provides a safe outlet for emotions that may be difficult to express aloud. It can also serve as a way to track your grief journey and reflect on moments of strength, even in the midst of pain.

3. Create Something in Their Honour

Creative expression allows you to channel grief into something tangible and meaningful. It’s not about being an artist; it’s about finding comfort in the act of creation.

How to Try It: Make a scrapbook, paint rocks with your child’s name or favourite quotes, or plant a garden in their memory. These activities help keep your child’s spirit alive while giving you a space to process your emotions.

Why It Matters: Creating something in your child’s honour helps you feel connected to their memory. It’s a way to celebrate their life and ensure their legacy lives on in meaningful ways.

4. Build a Support Network

Grief can feel isolating, but connecting with others who understand your pain can make a world of difference. A supportive community can help you cope with grief, provide validation, comfort, and a safe space to share your journey.

How to Try It: Join a grief support group, either online or in person. Simply being in a space where others share similar experiences can remind you that you’re not alone.

Why It Matters: Sharing your story with others who understand creates a sense of connection and belonging. It also provides an opportunity to learn from others who are navigating similar paths, offering both hope and solidarity.

5. Practice Self-Compassion

Grief often brings feelings of guilt or self-blame, but it’s essential to treat yourself with kindness. Giving yourself permission to grieve in your own way is one of the most healing gifts you can offer yourself.

How to Try It: Speak to yourself as you would to a friend. Use affirmations like, “I am doing the best I can,” or “My love for my child is endless.” Prioritize rest and self-care, even when it feels difficult.

Why It Matters: Self-compassion is a reminder that there is no right way to grieve. It allows you to release the weight of guilt and focus on nurturing yourself, which is vital for your emotional and physical well-being.

Ready fo More Grief Strategies to Cope with Grief

These five strategies are just the beginning. In the latest episode of The Angel Moms Podcast, I share two more powerful strategies to help you navigate grief and find moments of peace and healing. You’ll also hear heartfelt stories from other grieving moms, offering insights and hope for your journey.

🎧 Click here to listen to the full episode and discover all seven strategies that can help you carry your grief with strength and love.

Healing is not about “moving on”—it’s about finding a way to move forward while carrying the love you have for your child. You’re not alone, and with the right tools and support, you can find peace. Let’s walk this path together.

XO Lisa

PS: Looking for a small intimate community just for grieving moms? I invite you to check out the Angel Moms Private Community and start connecting and finding hope today.